SANTA MONICA, CALIFORNIA – DECEMBER 14: Stassi Schroeder attends TheWrap’s 5th Annual Power Women … [+]
Stassi Schroeder was on top of the world in 2020. She was a star on the hit reality show “Vanderpump Rules.” She had lucrative endorsement deals and a successful podcast. And her personal life was going just as well.
She just bought her first home and got engaged. She was planning the perfect Italian wedding.
But things were about to change.
Schroeder found herself at the center of a controversy that resulted in her being fired from the show and cancelled by many in the entertainment industry.
She lost everything: Her managers dropped her, her podcast network pulled her show, she lost of all her brand deals and even her wedding had to be postponed.
She had no one else to blame but herself. And she’s the first to admit that.
Schroeder said, “When you face challenges, it’s really important to have a growth mindset and to think about the ways that you can learn from those challenges and come out stronger on the other side.”
She chose to take the opportunity to learn and grow from her mistakes. She acknowledged her wrongdoings and expressed her desire to make amends.
With everything falling apart around her, Schroeder started writing what would become, Off with My Head: The Definitive Basic B*tch Handbook to Surviving Rock Bottom. The book would go on to become a New York Times Best Seller.
The book documented her journey from being cancelled to coming out on the other side. It was a transformation from a self-described “Basic B*tch” to someone who values relationships, love and mutual respect.
When Schroeder gave birth to her daughter, Hartford Charlie Rose Clark, in October 2020, it really put things into perspective.
Motherhood has brought a new sense of purpose and fulfillment to her life.
Schroeder said, “Kids change the game. Your priorities change.”
Her content also changed.
She was no longer bouncing around Hollywood every night and appearing at the coolest events.
She was now a Mom who preferred staying home with her family and watching Netflix with a glass of wine after the baby went to bed.
Not all of her followers liked this version of “Stassi 2.0.”
Schroeder said, “Sometimes people say, ‘Stassi’s whole identity now is just being a mom. We get it.’ Yeah, because that’s who I am. And that’s what’s really important to me.”
And there’s plenty more where that came from because she just announced that she’s pregnant with baby number two.
Schroeder’s cancel and comeback journey has been a challenging one but she has emerged stronger and more determined than ever.
She has learned important lessons about vulnerability, growth mindset, and the importance of focusing on her own journey.
Schroeder said, “I’m kind of thankful that thing happened the way that they did because my life is so different now. And I know what I care about. And I know what matters. Everything has just shifted.”
And she learned that opening up and sharing your struggles can actually be a positive experience.
She said, “I think vulnerability is actually a strength, because it allows us to connect more deeply with other people and to build more meaningful relationships. I think it’s important to remember that failure is just a part of the process, and it’s not something to be ashamed of or to run away from.”
